Birthday Weekend

I am still recovering from the busy, but oh so much fun, weekend!

Saturday, my day of birth (at 1:47am), was jam packed with everything. Greg and I left the house a little before 11am and didn’t return until a little after 10pm.

The drive down to Waldorf was uneventful; Amelia slept the entire way. Van beat us to the restaurant and Mom arrived a few minutes after us. Here are some pictures from lunch:

Total Cuteness!
Amelia and Nana Sue
Nana Sue, Amelia, and Grampa Van

Once lunch was over, Greg transferred the car-seat from my car to Moms. While Greg was doing that, Mom and I chatted and I told Mom how much Greg and I are thankful and appreciative of all the help (financially, emotionally, etc) she and Van have given us over the past year. Greg and I talked about helping Mom out (she doesn’t really need it) and gave Mom a check to kind of repay her and Van. Mom was taken back by the gesture (it wasn’t a huge check or anything) and refused to accept it but I enforced it and told her “if anything, you can put this away for Amelia or towards our wedding”. She accepted the check. Eventually the car-seat was installed and Amelia was sitting forward for the first time. It was a little odd seeing her sitting like this. It was so hard to leave Amelia; Greg and I delayed the departure as much as possible…

By 2pm we were on our way home. The drive was uneventful (no lights or traffic) and were ‘home’ a little after 3pm, earlier than we thought we would be. So, since the weather was so nice outside I decided to visit the Airport Park (also known as Friendship Park):

Bye Bye Southwest
Nearly land on the road!

We stayed for about a half hour and decide to head to the mall. The plan was to kill time at Dave and Busters but they were so freaking crowded we ended up spending over an hour at Books-a-million. Around 5:30 we leave the bookstore (I bought another wedding magazine and chatted with the cashier as she was planning her wedding as well) and stopped at the food court to get something to drink and kill a little more time.

We were a little early at arriving to Medieval Times but we also had a good spot in the front of the line. I took a few pictures while waiting…

Sheild on Statue
Still Christmas...

About 15 minutes later a procession of people came out and announced the show…

Coming out
King talking

After the announcement, we checked in and had our photo taken (which I took to work and didn’t get a picture of our picture). Greg and I walked around and looked at all the decorations and gift shop items…

Suit of Armour
Falcon Guy (was a part of the show)
Me and the bird guy

After Greg and I were done with the picture taking of all the decorations, Greg asks me if I am girly enough for a tiara. ?!??!! I asked him to explain and he asked how I feel about having a tiara. I asked him where this question came from and he was being all coy about it and questioned why I was questioning him and I explained that that question he asked me was out of character! He wouldn’t tell me what it meant. I gave up and told Greg that I wanted a picture with the King. Greg kept telling me that it wouldn’t be possible because the King was having his picture taken with all the guests that paid the extra $10 to have the Royal treatment. I rebuttal and tried to play the ‘it’s my birthday, I can do what I want’ card (sorta) and i wasn’t winning. About 15 minutes later the Chancellor (my MR DREAMY) called everyone around because there was going to be a knighting ceremony.  Little did I know…

Dame of the Realm

Greg secretly met with the ‘Scroll Mistress’ and put my name on the list to recognize my 29th Birthday! That is why he was asking if I considered myself girly enough for a tiara!

Lady Jess

I didn’t get a tiara, nor did I buy the thing I’m wearing in the picture. I didn’t see the need to buy either (and nor did Greg). But, I did get a picture of me and the King (as he ‘knighted’ me), which is also at work. After the ceremony we waited what felt like an eternity to go in. While waiting Greg snagged a picture of MR DREAMY for me (it was pretty obvious I was attracted to the guy)…

MR DREAMY on the left

oohh baby! I so wanted a picture with him but each time I was going to approach him someone else would and eventually I gave up because I thought the last thing he needs is another interruption from a guest.

Finally at 7:30 the doors were opened and we were called in by color; Greg and I were on the Red and Yellow team.


and then the show finally began!! Here are some of my favorite pictures; you can see EVERYTHING here

The guy on the right, GREEN, was the bad guy
A little LOVE story
Getting ready to rumble - Medieval style

At the end of the show all birthday’s were announced and mine was the second one!! And what stood out was that the announcement and parchment all had my maiden name!! It was so neat to hear.

When Greg and I made it home we were so exhausted. We walked the entire mall (a little over a mile) one and a half times and just trying to relax after the busy day. I uploaded the pictures and putted around the computer and around 12am headed to bed. During those two hours (10pm – 12am) I went to check on Amelia twice only to realize that she wasn’t in her room. I was missing her!

On Sunday Greg and I were up for good by 8:30am. We couldn’t sleep in; Greg woke up at 7am worried about Amelia (because she wasn’t up yet) only to remember she wasn’t here. Yeah, we’re really missing Amelia.

Greg did something I didn’t expect him to do. He shaved off his beard/mustache thing!! I honestly didn’t expect him to do it. We were talking about it one night last week and he said he’s been curious and decided to do it Sunday morning!


I think Greg looks years younger (cute baby face)! He’s told me not to get used to it as he’s going to let it grow back. His excuse as to not keep his face hair free is because it requires too much work (meaning frequent shaving) and he’s too lazy.

Around 1pm Greg and I head over to Sean and Aaron’s place to take them to Ikea with us. Well, Sean didn’t tell Aaron and Sean was still in Baltimore where he spent the night at a hotel with some friends. It took forever to get the boys ready and out the door! So, to kill time I took pictures…

Aaron (the white one) - don't ask what he's holding... you may not want to know.
The real Aaron (Sean's roommate)
Greg reads it for the articles

Finally, around 2pm we were on our way! Since I was driving (my car is cleaner than Greg’s therefore we can fit whatever we’re buying into the car) Greg took a load of pictures on the way up…

Just entered the Baltimore Harbour Tunnel
neat blur effect
Heading towards the light...
through the tunnel

and finally…


we make it to Ikea!!

We immediately have lunch when we arrive (food porn can be seen on Flickr – I wonder how many site hits I’ll have now for writing ‘porn’..)

After lunch Greg and I pretty much loose Sean and Aaron. Greg and I already knew what we wanted so we headed over to that section to check the dressers out. The dresser I wanted was out of stock so I ended up choosing the dresser that Greg wanted, so we bought two – one for each of us and we chose the colors we wanted (I chose the birch veneer and Greg chose the oak veneer). Greg really wanted a nightstand but I didn’t feel there was enough of a selection for my taste. Greg found the one he liked and I passed – for now. We talked about dining room tables and chairs and a computer desk. Currently, our dining room table is really a waste of space – it fits but it’s more than we need. So we were looking at something a little smaller with room to grow (as our family grows) and would give a little more space to rearrange our current furniture settings to include a desk out in the living/dining rooms. We found a table that we liked and added it to our ‘wish list’ for later this year.

Once we jotted down the item numbers and isle location of the dressers and night stand we headed down stairs to the kitchen, textiles, and all the other goodies. Greg wanted to get some things that I felt we don’t need right now but would be great for the wedding registry (considering Ikea, along with Bed, Bath and Beyond, Target, and JCPenny – sounds like a lot but I feel it gives people a lot of choices). We picked up some new glasses and wine glasses for the kitchen. Then, it was to the bedding section (which I love). There was an awesome sale going on and I bought this quilt, a king size, for only $12.50!! I am seriously considering going back to Ikea to buy more for Christmas presents this year!! In order to get the additional 50% off the ticketed price, you had to ask a floor assistant for a coupon – which I did. And got extras!! But the promotion expires on the 10th so I need to hurry up and make up my mind. Anyway, since we bought the quilt so cheap I had to buy a new duvet and I chose this one. I have wanted an Ikea quilt and duvet cover so long long (I love how fluffy and comfortable the look in the tv commercials and catalogs) and I was so excited to finallyhave one!! I couldn’t wait to get home and put the duvet on the quilt and make the bed! After bedding we wandered into the lighting section (another part of Ikea that I love) and argued (not really) over changing the light fixture in the dining area; Greg feels we would need to hire an electrical contractor to change the fixture. I kept telling him he’s over exaggerating something so simple to do and that my brother could do it (as he’s done it before). Greg doesn’t want to change the fixture. Boo on him. But we did get a new lamp to include in the living room (high ceilings make the room difficult to light – when there are no lights from the ceilings). I can’t believe the lamp was only $14.99(which cost about $38 at Target for a very similar lamp)! Greg and I really did some good shopping at Ikea.

When we were checking out we were trying to figure out our total. Greg was estimating $600 and I was guessing mid $400. Our total was $473. Not bad for two dressers, a night stand, lamp and lamp bulbs, glasses, quilt and duvet, and a few smaller items (cookies, kitchen brushes, etc). Sean and Aaron met us at the check out and helped Greg and I bring everything up stairs (the dressers alone weighed 138lbs a piece) and to show our gratitude we took them out to dinner of their choice and they wanted to go to Old Country Buffet.

Greg assembled the first, his, dresser once we were home from dinner. Neither of us watched the super bowl. I talked to my Mom I believe for the 6th time that day and around midnight, again, we went to bed.

That is my birthday weekend in a nutshell.

Today, Monday, Greg sent me a very… hhmmm… I don’t know how to describe this… email from his Grandfather. We may not be going to Alabama after all…

to be continued…


Awesome Day!

This has been an amazing day; the best day (aside from Amelia’s First birthday) of 2008, thus far!!

Work was a little challenging but around 11:30am there was a delivery for me:

Ediable Surprise

It’s a Edible Arrangement complete with chocolate dipping sauce (and serving dish in the shape of a strawberry)!! The strawberries (or ‘roses’) were so freaking good! And the chocolate covered banana’s were delicious (though a little weird for me). Oh my god was the pineapple (‘dasies’) … just so freaking amazing (I love pineapple!!). I walked around the office sharing the basket with everyone (I didn’t want the fruit to go to waste) and that thing weighed about 10+ pounds! And this was all from Greg!

White and Milk Chocolate Dipped Banana

Wonder what held the fruit together?

Head of Lettus

a head of lettuce – not even pulled apart! I was thinking Styrofoam but I guess this think is completely edible!

Around 11:50 I receive a text message from my girlfriend, Michele, and she’s telling me that she’s in town (was at Arundel Mills Mall killing some time) and said she was going to stop by the office before heading home!

Michele in her car

Michele had a few birthday gifts for me and Amelia!! She bought Amelia a new outfit – for next year! – and a toy and Michele bought me a bag of Poppycock and beautiful necklace and an amazing card:

Poppycock and card
Best Friends

The rest of the work day was a nightmare! Too many people took the day off (don’t know why the supervisors allowed this…) and the rest of us were just overwhelmed. Then, around 3:30pm the remote server crashed and we weren’t able to access any of our NY or NJ customer accounts, and guess which customers were calling in. Yeah. The server wasn’t restored by 6pm!! We were telling customers to call back or to give us their information and that we would call them once service was back up. It was fun, like totally.

Greg calls me on my way to getting Amelia and tells me that we’re going out to dinner! Nothing special, just Bennigan’s. But, it was fun nonetheless! Amelia was being adorable and showed us her new ‘trick’ – she will shake her head to make her hair swoosh all over the place, and if I mimic her she will crack up! I caught it on tape:

Dinner was nice; I wasn’t really all that hungry so I only ordered some chicken tenders and shared them with Amelia.

Once we were home, Greg showed me what we’re doing for dinner tomorrow night:

Dinner Ticket

We have tickets to the Medieval Times restaurant!! I’ve been wanting to go here since the place opened a few years ago! I am so freaking excited about the show!!

I checked the mail and guess what was in there!!!

No, not the W-2 I’ve been waiting for but…


My divorce is final!!! It’s all done!!! I am ‘free’!!! FINALLY!!!!

Oh my god has this day been amazing!! Like a really amazing day!


I volunteered to leave early since the phones were still down around 2. I came home and started a load of laundry and then ran out to get my eyebrows waxed

Let the torture begin
Eyebrows BEFORE (the unibrow)No unibrow! 

yeah, it was a much needed waxing.

After my torture session (i hate the tweezing) I ran over to the AT&T store to talk about my phone; I was having issues with it already. It locked up twice the other day!!

Unsafe ATT Store

 My friend, Lisa (the one that works with me), was at this store when a robbery occurred! She and the other customers and employees were locked into a storage closet! And the robbers took all their cellphones so no one would call for help. I don’t remember how they got out but since then there as been a cop assigned to the store.

I decided that I am not going to just deal with the phone issues (moving forward) and if I am still within my 30 day return policy – I’m going for it. So, I ended up buying the newer Blackjack model.

New; On the Right: Old

The new phone is awesome! The layout is much nicer for me (has a wheelie thing in the center instead of the dial thingy on the side) since I use my left hand for just about everything phone related. Also, it comes in red – my favorite color!


Tomorrow we’re meeting my Mom down in Waldorf for my birthday lunch and Amelia is going home with her until the 10th. We’re going to miss Amelia so much; greg and I were talking about how we’re going to miss her during dinner tonight. It’s going to be so weird to not have her around; hearing her giggles and squeals of delight when she hears the bath tub water turn on. After lunch, we’re going to head to Arundel Mills Mall and kill some time at Dave and Busters (we have free play cards from Greg’s holiday party) and then head over to Medieval Times for the show!

Our plan for Sunday, so far, is to go up to Ikea and get the dresser and night stands we’ve been oogling for the last 6 months.

Sounds like a busy weekend but oh so much fun!

Yeah … No (and more)



It didn’t happen.

Greg and I were just as lazy today as we were yesterday. Although, we did go out. We did an uneventful trip to Costco and placed the birthday cake order for Amelia’s First Birthday and picked up some odds and ends (like tin foil) and then went over to Target (no run in with his ex) and bought a lot of Christmas stuff for next year at 75% off (Christmas wrap, cards, etc), as well as some new pajama’s and sippy cups for Amelia.

We did do a little more laundry today and I kinda sorta cleaned up – some.

Update: Greg and I cleaned the condo. It’s 10:53 as I type.

Moving on…

While cleaning, I came across an old ‘jump drive’ and downloaded the pictures and files from it. There were pictures going back to 2001 (of Kara) and up to 2005 (last PRP Christmas Party):

PRP Party December 2005

and here I am in 2003

Charlie and Jess Christmas 2003

And, here I am for Christmas 2007:

Greg and Jess MBC Christmas Party 2007

a lot of changes between those years! The 2003 photo (the middle one) was a few months after I married Adam (that’s my wedding dress that I am wearing) and the 2005 picture (the top one) is about 6 months after Adam moved out (and Greg and I were friends at the time but he didn’t want to be my ‘date’ so Michele and I went together. Two days after the picture was taken my aunt passed away. I remember my brother and Aaron coming to the party and my brother was so upset and crying about my aunt). Then, there is the final picture of Greg and me taken this year, 2007, for his company holiday party.

And, here’s a picture of Adam (in case any of ya’ll were wondering what he looked like):

Adam circa 2003

that was my favorite picture of him. He’s changed some over the years (less hair on the head), but not much (though I haven’t seen him in nearly a year and a half).

So, that was a small trip down memory lane. Well, sorta. I don’t feel any nostalgia with the pictures (other than remembering my aunt dying from cancer); the pictures (the ones from yester year) don’t really hold any emotional reaction for me.

meh. don’t have enough mental energy to finish the thoughts. It’s 12:04am and I am heading off to bed.

Mind Musings

I have so many thoughts going through my mind!

  • I’m thinking about my upcoming divorce hearing and saying good bye to Adam (mentally);
  • The odd dream I had last night about Greg’s ex;
  • Wedding stuff, mainly finding our site for the ceremony and reception;
  • The slow realization that Greg is going to be my future husband;
  • Van’s offer to pay for my tuition so I can finish my medical assisting/nursing certification/degree;
  • And much more…

Mainly, I am thinking about my wedding and divorce with little bits of the dream I had last night; which I’ll start off with first…

Last night, I dreamt that Greg and I were living with his ex temporarily. It was very awkward for me in the dream, even though we (Greg’s ex and I) were rarely home at the same time. Then, at some point in the dream, the exes sister spies on me and tells the ex what I’ve been doing (supposedly) and then the ex leaves all these notes around the house for me (and they weren’t very positive notes). The same day I discovered the notes around the house, she comes home while I am there and I confront her about the stuff she’s writing to me. And, somehow, after talking about everything we become friends. And, I recall thinking in the dream how odd it felt realizing that we’ve basically ‘made up’ and were actually talking as friends. Very strange dream, no?

My second thought is about saying good bye, permanently, to Adam.  Honestly, I am not that upset about saying good bye as I have no emotional attachment to him what-so-ever; but I thought I would be able to send an email every once in a blue moon to say ‘Hi’ and see what he’s up to (just as I’ve done since 2005 when he moved out). But, I confronted him (via email as that’s the only means of communication I have to him) about the impression I had that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me for non divorce related stuff. You see, I’ve always remained friends with all my exes, even if I started a new relationship or if they started a new relationship; it just wasn’t odd to me. But, Adam is different; he’s a very private person and even though I’m not asking him private questions, I got the feeling that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me after the divorce. Which, as I’ve mentioned, is fine. After all, we need to close certain chapters from our past and move on to start the new chapters. I don’t think I’ll ‘miss’ him in any sense. I guess, in a sense, I received closure from him when he, more or less, confirmed what I thought. So, that is that.

Now, onto the wedding stuff! Last night I bought my first wedding magazine!! I bought the winter edition of The Knot, the magazine version of the website for things in the DC, VA, MD area. And, today, I read that magazine from cover to cover! I highlighted things of interest and worth looking into and checked out a few vendors and potential wedding/ceremony websites.

Even though, as of today, I have 653 days until my wedding, I want to pick out my location; and it’s slightly difficult because I don’t know how many guests we’re going to invite vs. attend. Greg thinks we’ll easily have 150 attendees; I think he’s wrong. Plus, if we have a wedding with that many guests, it’s really going to be financially stressful for us (I, without mentioning anything to my family – as in asking, am not expecting help from our families for our wedding, especially since I’m a repeat bride (sorta)). I am expecting something smaller, like around 75 guests. The second topic of discussion is where to host our wedding and reception. Greg said he wants to do something exotic and feels that if we hold our wedding and reception at a park, that it’s too traditional. Greg and I view the word ‘traditional’ in terms of a wedding completely different; to me, a traditional wedding is a wedding that is held in a church and the reception in a banquet hall. So far, Greg and I have added Ripkin Stadiumas a possible ceremony/reception site. My Mom, on the other hand, would like us to have our wedding reception (as least) at her house. Granted, there are 20 acres to fit everyone, and there is a small beach where we could have the bon fire, but I feel it would be too much of a drive for everyone, and that there are no hotels near by for the guests (since EVERYONE would need a hotel room); if Mom lived closer, then I would seriously consider it (after all, my other wedding reception was held at home in Churchton). I believe the planning would be easier on me if I knew how much money I had to work with. But, I want to know how much everything is going to cost before I set my budget… it feels like I’m in a ‘catch 22’ regarding this part of the planning. Eh, as Greg says, we have plenty of time. Oh, and another item we dicussed was our “save the date” notices – we’re going to send them out this summer. We’re thinking magnets so everyone can put it on the fridge and, hopefully, not forget.

So, not too much going on.

Although, I really should be planning Amelia’s First Birthday Party, as I only have 2 weeks (eek!!). Guess Greg and I will work on that this weekend…

Spreading Like Wildfire!

Word is traveling fast about my engagement to Greg. I’ve received a ton of emails, Myspace Comments, and text messages from all my friends and family!! Everyone is so freaking happy!

One of my best-est friends, Daniel, sent me the following text last night (it’s in three photos to show the whole text message):


Oh, Daniel is so funny! And, he’s been saying since Greg and I met that he (Greg) is the one for me. I didn’t listen to him because Greg and I were up front with what we were looking for when we met (just friends, no relationship)… and, well… the rest is history!!

Michele and I were text messaging last night I told her to get ready to be a bridesmaid! I already know who is going to be my maid of honor (cousin April) and my two bridesmaids, Kara and Michele. Greg is going to have his two brothers and my brother in his party. And, of course Amelia and Olivia are going to be our flower girls!!

And, this afternoon, my girlfriend Kara called and we chatted for like 45 minutes on the phone catching up and talking like school girls about my engagement and wedding plans (what little Greg and I have talked thus far). I told her the time frame and our ideas (huge bonfire) and she was getting ideas and everything. Oh, I’ve missed Kara so much (and she misses me too). We were talking about or divorces and her ex is being worse than mine (Kara and I were married on the same day, just three years apart) and she filed for divorce about a year after Adam and me.

This is so exciting; thinking about the wedding Greg and I are going to plan; the excitment of getting so much attention from everyone (even strangers when they see the ring sparkeling in the light), and just everything!!

I am so freaking happy right now; happier than I’ve ever imagined feeling.

Can I Get A Witness??

My divorce hearing is scheduled for DECEMBER 31, 2007!!!!

My divorce will be final 30 days after the hearing.

I will be divorced before I am 29.

I am so freaking excited!!!!!

As I was scheduling the hearing, I was informed that I would need a witness with me, someone who has been or known Adam and I before or during our marriage, or someone who has known me since being separated. I thought about Greg but I don’t know. So, I called my Mom and she said she would come up for the hearing, after all (and I quote her words exactly) “I was there when you got married, I might as well be there when you get your divorce.”