Ring Ring (& Other Things)

This afternoon my engagement ring had a boo-boo so it’s now at the jewelers being repaired (I knew it would only be a matter of time before I ‘broke’ some part of the ring), and while they were at it I asked them to resize the ring as it was slightly too big, so we went down half a size (though now I’m paranoid about my fingers getting fatter in the future – say by the time we buy our wedding bands!!)

While the jeweler was filling out the paper work for the repair order, Greg and I started to look at wedding bands (for me of course – he already knows what he wants). I want something unique but not too flashy or gaudy. Also, the band has to ‘fit’ the engagement ring by setting type (channel vs. pave), so it was a little more challenging to find what I liked (as we’re more than likely going to go to the same jeweler to purchase our wedding bands). The one ring that I thought was unique enough (for me, though Greg didn’t care too much for it) was about a half carat in weight and set in platinum (which they could order in which gold). Here’s a picture similar to the one I liked:

Option 1

I made the picture big so all can be seen.

Greg wasn’t too big on this one and he wouldn’t give a valid reason. So, we looked at others and this is my second consideration:

Option Two

This one isn’t all that unique (by my standards at least) but it almost matches the begets on my engagement ring. Again, these two rings are not the exact ones from the jewelers; these are from Blue Nile.

Either way, I have plenty of time to pick out the perfect ring.

In other news…

I was bored today and decided to clean out my cell phone contact list. There were over 50 numbers of people that I haven’t talked to in over a year, so I deleted them. But, there were a few that I had a split second of hesitation about deleting; one of them being RD. I don’t know why I saved his phone number. I haven’t called him in about two years (nor have we exchanged any emails or messages online). I guess keeping his number was a ‘token’ or reminder of him and the feelings I had. And I thought to myself why I kept his number and I didn’t have a reason; I have no desire to know what happened between us; how’s he’s doing or any of the sort (I know I’ve mentioned that when I lived in Pasadena, I was within a mile of his house and we never ran into each other – not that I was hoping it would happen). It took a few weeks to get over him even though there wasn’t actually anything between us. He was just one of those people I really connected with and it’s so rare to feel a connection as strong as we did (until I met Greg), so I was a little depressed when he, out of the blue, stopped talking to me (in January 2006). Greg knew about RD (as we were friends at the time) and he helped console me when I was blue and we continued our growing friendship and eventually I rarely thought about RD. Then I came to Cop’sphone number; we haven’t seen each other in over a year and a half and he is married (and had a baby this past summer). Cop was someone fun (back then) and he told me he felt a connection with me and asked me if I wanted to leave his wife (they were having problems) so we could be together (as Cop and I only chatted when he was working (6pm to 2am or 2am to 10am; or we would text each other throughout the day and we only got to see each other maybe twice a month due to conflicting times and schedules). I told him no (but when I told this to Greg (aka CopyGuy) he felt a little jealousy). I liked Cop, but it was just physical. I didn’t see him as someone I could really be with. Then there was one other person that I haven’t really thought about, much less talked to, since 2005 – Lee. I’ve never mentioned him in any of the blogs I’ve started (and there are about five). Lee and I go back to 1996!! Just when the internet was becoming insanely popular with chatrooms and the sorts, Lee and I met and our friendship grew over the years. We would chat on the phone and email hourly! Lee is a native American Indian and was living in Arizona and New Mexico (for school) and he had an accent that reminded me of Ed from Northern Exposure (I loved that show). Lee was amazing and I felt that if we ever met in person (and we talked about it) we probably would have been together. Mind you, this was over 10 years ago. Around 2004, Lee found my email address and contacted me! Our friendship rekindled and there were a few sparks going off, but given our schedules and time zone differences (and the fact he was still taking classes part time), we weren’t able to really catch-up and eventually we faded apart… again. I deleted his phone number as well.

Surprisingly, deleting those numbers wasn’t as hard as I thought it could have been. Yes, there was a slight hesitation but no second thoughts after I did it. And thinking about it now, as I write this all out, I don’t have any feelings of “maybe I shouldn’t have deleted his number…”; my future is with Greg and theres no second guessing that; if I were with anyone else (for example, Adam) I would be feeling completely different and probably have a few more new numbers in the phone book. Greg has changed my life. For the better. And it’s great.

While cleaning out my phone book, I came across a number from a guy that I met at Weis. He was a customer that would come in with his Mom and we totally hit it off and exchanged phone numbers. Yeah, the dude is gay so there were no romantic sparks or anything. The guys name is Tony and he was a riot! When ever he came to the store we would gossip about people neither of us knew and talk about so many things! We drifted apart after I left Weis. This evening I sent him a text message and he replied! So we exchanged a few texts and I told him that I would call him tomorrow night to catch-up. I can’t wait to chat with Tony!

Anyway, it’s way past my bed time (12:22am!!) and I should go to bed…

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Mind Musings

I have so many thoughts going through my mind!

  • I’m thinking about my upcoming divorce hearing and saying good bye to Adam (mentally);
  • The odd dream I had last night about Greg’s ex;
  • Wedding stuff, mainly finding our site for the ceremony and reception;
  • The slow realization that Greg is going to be my future husband;
  • Van’s offer to pay for my tuition so I can finish my medical assisting/nursing certification/degree;
  • And much more…

Mainly, I am thinking about my wedding and divorce with little bits of the dream I had last night; which I’ll start off with first…

Last night, I dreamt that Greg and I were living with his ex temporarily. It was very awkward for me in the dream, even though we (Greg’s ex and I) were rarely home at the same time. Then, at some point in the dream, the exes sister spies on me and tells the ex what I’ve been doing (supposedly) and then the ex leaves all these notes around the house for me (and they weren’t very positive notes). The same day I discovered the notes around the house, she comes home while I am there and I confront her about the stuff she’s writing to me. And, somehow, after talking about everything we become friends. And, I recall thinking in the dream how odd it felt realizing that we’ve basically ‘made up’ and were actually talking as friends. Very strange dream, no?

My second thought is about saying good bye, permanently, to Adam.  Honestly, I am not that upset about saying good bye as I have no emotional attachment to him what-so-ever; but I thought I would be able to send an email every once in a blue moon to say ‘Hi’ and see what he’s up to (just as I’ve done since 2005 when he moved out). But, I confronted him (via email as that’s the only means of communication I have to him) about the impression I had that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me for non divorce related stuff. You see, I’ve always remained friends with all my exes, even if I started a new relationship or if they started a new relationship; it just wasn’t odd to me. But, Adam is different; he’s a very private person and even though I’m not asking him private questions, I got the feeling that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me after the divorce. Which, as I’ve mentioned, is fine. After all, we need to close certain chapters from our past and move on to start the new chapters. I don’t think I’ll ‘miss’ him in any sense. I guess, in a sense, I received closure from him when he, more or less, confirmed what I thought. So, that is that.

Now, onto the wedding stuff! Last night I bought my first wedding magazine!! I bought the winter edition of The Knot, the magazine version of the website for things in the DC, VA, MD area. And, today, I read that magazine from cover to cover! I highlighted things of interest and worth looking into and checked out a few vendors and potential wedding/ceremony websites.

Even though, as of today, I have 653 days until my wedding, I want to pick out my location; and it’s slightly difficult because I don’t know how many guests we’re going to invite vs. attend. Greg thinks we’ll easily have 150 attendees; I think he’s wrong. Plus, if we have a wedding with that many guests, it’s really going to be financially stressful for us (I, without mentioning anything to my family – as in asking, am not expecting help from our families for our wedding, especially since I’m a repeat bride (sorta)). I am expecting something smaller, like around 75 guests. The second topic of discussion is where to host our wedding and reception. Greg said he wants to do something exotic and feels that if we hold our wedding and reception at a park, that it’s too traditional. Greg and I view the word ‘traditional’ in terms of a wedding completely different; to me, a traditional wedding is a wedding that is held in a church and the reception in a banquet hall. So far, Greg and I have added Ripkin Stadiumas a possible ceremony/reception site. My Mom, on the other hand, would like us to have our wedding reception (as least) at her house. Granted, there are 20 acres to fit everyone, and there is a small beach where we could have the bon fire, but I feel it would be too much of a drive for everyone, and that there are no hotels near by for the guests (since EVERYONE would need a hotel room); if Mom lived closer, then I would seriously consider it (after all, my other wedding reception was held at home in Churchton). I believe the planning would be easier on me if I knew how much money I had to work with. But, I want to know how much everything is going to cost before I set my budget… it feels like I’m in a ‘catch 22’ regarding this part of the planning. Eh, as Greg says, we have plenty of time. Oh, and another item we dicussed was our “save the date” notices – we’re going to send them out this summer. We’re thinking magnets so everyone can put it on the fridge and, hopefully, not forget.

So, not too much going on.

Although, I really should be planning Amelia’s First Birthday Party, as I only have 2 weeks (eek!!). Guess Greg and I will work on that this weekend…

Spreading Like Wildfire!

Word is traveling fast about my engagement to Greg. I’ve received a ton of emails, Myspace Comments, and text messages from all my friends and family!! Everyone is so freaking happy!

One of my best-est friends, Daniel, sent me the following text last night (it’s in three photos to show the whole text message):

 

Oh, Daniel is so funny! And, he’s been saying since Greg and I met that he (Greg) is the one for me. I didn’t listen to him because Greg and I were up front with what we were looking for when we met (just friends, no relationship)… and, well… the rest is history!!

Michele and I were text messaging last night I told her to get ready to be a bridesmaid! I already know who is going to be my maid of honor (cousin April) and my two bridesmaids, Kara and Michele. Greg is going to have his two brothers and my brother in his party. And, of course Amelia and Olivia are going to be our flower girls!!

And, this afternoon, my girlfriend Kara called and we chatted for like 45 minutes on the phone catching up and talking like school girls about my engagement and wedding plans (what little Greg and I have talked thus far). I told her the time frame and our ideas (huge bonfire) and she was getting ideas and everything. Oh, I’ve missed Kara so much (and she misses me too). We were talking about or divorces and her ex is being worse than mine (Kara and I were married on the same day, just three years apart) and she filed for divorce about a year after Adam and me.

This is so exciting; thinking about the wedding Greg and I are going to plan; the excitment of getting so much attention from everyone (even strangers when they see the ring sparkeling in the light), and just everything!!

I am so freaking happy right now; happier than I’ve ever imagined feeling.

Christmas Eve!!

I have so much planned tonight.

First, as soon as I am done here, I am going to go get Amelia and give the babysitter her fruit basket.

Secondly, come back home and start cleaning (especially cleaning off the dinner table) and prepare a special dinner for my family (I love saying ‘my family’)

Then, build a nice fire (if it gets cold enough) and have a nice Christmas Eve with my family!!

Dinner consists of glazed ham, green bean casserole, stuffing, and biscuits. And for dessert, mixed berry gelato.

Work was uber slow today. So, I started my detailed blog entry about Sunday (will post later) and took many pictures of my engagement ring in the sunlight (to get details for all to see):

Details

I love how is sparkles so much!

I can’t wait until Greg get’s home (which should be soon) so we can spend our first Christmas Eve together as a family!

Christmas Eve!!

I have so much planned tonight.

First, as soon as I am done here, I am going to go get Amelia and give the babysitter her fruit basket.

Secondly, come back home and start cleaning (especially cleaning off the dinner table) and prepare a special dinner for my family (I love saying ‘my family’)

Then, build a nice fire (if it gets cold enough) and have a nice Christmas Eve with my family!!

Dinner consists of glazed ham, green bean casserole, stuffing, and biscuits. And for dessert, mixed berry gelato.

Work was uber slow today. So, I started my detailed blog entry about Sunday (will post later) and took many pictures of my engagement ring in the sunlight (to get details for all to see):

Details

I love how is sparkles so much!

I can’t wait until Greg get’s home (which should be soon) so we can spend our first Christmas Eve together as a family!

We’re Engaged!!!

Oh my God!!! Today was one of the best days I’ve ever had!

Greg asked me to marry him and I said yes!!! We’re engaged!!!

Engagement Ring

Here’s how Greg proposed to me:

 This afternoon, when Van got back from running a few errands we opened our Christmas presents. The last present I opened was from Greg. It was a pretty good sized box was it was light, so I was curious. I opened the box and within was another box, also light. I opened that box and then there was ANOTHER box! The third box had a bow on it, I took off the bow, opened it up expecting to see a ring box, but to my surprise there was a AA battery!! I was like… what?!? 

and I looked up at Greg (because I was sitting on the floor and he was standing next to me) and he was getting down on one knee, opening a box with an engagement ring inside – the one I loved at the jewelry store – and Greg said:

“We’ve had some amazing times together and I would like you to be with me for the rest of our adventures in life. Will you marry me?”

All of this was done in front of my family; my brother, Mom, Amelia, and Van!!!

I was so speechless that all I could do was nod!

And, I was so excited I took the ring out of the box and put it on myself!

My Mom was crying, I was tearing up and even Van had a few tears running down his cheek!!

 I was so caught up in the moment that I didn’t see the note that Greg wrote inside the box where the battery was: 

Love Note 

If you know Greg, then you know he’s into video games, especially Mario Bros. (we’re saving up for a Wii) and the note is in reference to Mario rescuing the Princess from the castle; so it would have said (if we were in a Mario game) “Sorry Mario, your Princess is in another castle”.

 This is so amazing! I’M ENGAGED!!

We’re Engaged!!!

Oh my God!!! Today was one of the best days I’ve ever had!

Greg asked me to marry him and I said yes!!! We’re engaged!!!

Engagement Ring

Here’s how Greg proposed to me:

 This afternoon, when Van got back from running a few errands we opened our Christmas presents. The last present I opened was from Greg. It was a pretty good sized box was it was light, so I was curious. I opened the box and within was another box, also light. I opened that box and then there was ANOTHER box! The third box had a bow on it, I took off the bow, opened it up expecting to see a ring box, but to my surprise there was a AA battery!! I was like… what?!? 

and I looked up at Greg (because I was sitting on the floor and he was standing next to me) and he was getting down on one knee, opening a box with an engagement ring inside – the one I loved at the jewelry store – and Greg said:

“We’ve had some amazing times together and I would like you to be with me for the rest of our adventures in life. Will you marry me?”

All of this was done in front of my family; my brother, Mom, Amelia, and Van!!!

I was so speechless that all I could do was nod!

And, I was so excited I took the ring out of the box and put it on myself!

My Mom was crying, I was tearing up and even Van had a few tears running down his cheek!!

 I was so caught up in the moment that I didn’t see the note that Greg wrote inside the box where the battery was: 

Love Note 

If you know Greg, then you know he’s into video games, especially Mario Bros. (we’re saving up for a Wii) and the note is in reference to Mario rescuing the Princess from the castle; so it would have said (if we were in a Mario game) “Sorry Mario, your Princess is in another castle”.

 This is so amazing! I’M ENGAGED!!