Crazy Busy Day!

Well, today was Amelia’s ONE YEAR check-up!!! She received three shots and wasn’t a happy camper. Only to later have some blood drawn. I had more of an anxiety attack when her doc told me he wanted some blood work than seeing Amelia get her shots. I have a somewhat strong phobia for needles and I always develop a slight anxiety attack when I have to get a shot or have any blood work done (and anyone would think that since I have birth and went through all that I did last January (and the many, many IV’s I had.. 3 at the same time at one point) that I would be over my fear – I’m not). And, since my doc ordered some blood work for me when I saw him in December I thought I might as well fulfill that order as well. I will say, the lady at Lab-Corp did a great job! I barely felt the needle go in and there isn’t a bruise on my arm or anything. And, Amelia did as expected – she cried. I was surprised that she didn’t try to interfere with the phlebotomist (and that they didn’t have to tie her down like I was expecting).

Anyway, here are the stats on Amelia:

Weight: 20lbs even (previous appointment was 18 lbs and 4 ounces)

Height: 28.5 inches!! She’s a tall little girl (previous appointment was 27 1/4 inches)

Not a huge growth spurt, but she’s still in line with everything (her pediatrician doesn’t give those percentages at each check-up, and it’s probably for the best as I would probably over worry for nothing). Oh, and she has two more teeth growing in – on the top. It seems, that when Amelia’s teeth decide to grow, they grow two at a time! Plus, isn’t it a little odd that it’s her top teeth growing in rather than her bottom? Anyway, as soon as these two new teeth break through she’ll have a total of six teeth.

Anyway, after Amelia’s appointment we went to have the blood work done and then we went to the WIC appointment only to learn that I was a little early… by a day (this is an example of why I might need a PDA)! So, I told the WIC person that I don’t wish to continue with the program as I don’t need the services anymore. The lady actually tried to talk me out of quitting!! I guess it’s rare that they are told that someone doesn’t need the assistance anymore. But, I still don’t know why they would try to talk me about it. I just told the lady that I wouldn’t qualify anymore because of my income (which is true).

By now it’s 11:30am and we decide to take Amelia to day care. I update the sitter about Amelia and her shots and what not and then Greg and I head out to Columbia to have lunch at The Olive Garden. Greg has had a gift card to the restaurant for over a year, in addition to two gift cards to Borders.

Lunch at The Olive Garden was… horrible. Our server was bad. I actually spoke to the manager about our experience at the restaurant. This lady, our server, seemed to have forgotten all about us even though she passed by us countless times. And, according to the manager she only had three tables to serve (including ours)! We knew it was going to be a bad experience when she forgot to bring us our drinks and I had to flag her down, twice, to ask for our drinks. She never put in our appetizer order (which we realized later), and never stopped by to see how we’re doing or offered us a refill of our drinks. After talking to the manager, he said he would take care of it. At that time my Mom called so Greg spoke to the manager and I don’t know what they talked about but we had $7.53 taken off our bill and he gave us a $25 gift card (which is what we were paying our lunch with) and stated that he hopes we’ll return in the futre. We understand people have bad days, but if you’re in the server business – at least communicate with your customers so we’re not left wondering. Since we were paying with a gift card, what ever balance was on the gift card was going to be the tip – it was about a 6% tip.

After lunch, we stopped by Greg’s office to get a few things and then we were off to Borders. Today’s weather was freaky! We had a mild snow flurry blizzard this afternoon! Greg and I sat in the car at Borders and watched the snow fly by us! It was so cool; the wind was blowing so fast that it looked we were driving through the snow (as we sat facing the wind and snow). When the snow wind was over we headed inside. Greg and I spent nearly two hours in that store. I so love book stores and could spend days in there! There were so many books I wanted to get (about photography, wedding planning, traveling, photoshop, etc) and Greg found a ton as well. Can you believe we spent $71 at the store and we only bought periodicals!

After our little shopping spree at Borders, we stopped by the loan office and dropped off some paper work and then came home and… well… you get the idea. Around 5:40pm, Greg left to go get Amelia and we found something that pissed me off, not Greg but me. What this person did was illegal and if I find out who did this there will be hell to pay (with the law and lawyers).

So, I spent a good part of the evening cooling off and doing a little reasearch. I am so thankful that Greg and I have such an open relationship and how we communicate to each other.

Anyway, to distract my thoughts I decided to look at some wedding things and go through the magazines that we bought earlier today. I haven’t really found anything that stands out to me. I have looking up a few other bridal salons and marked their websites as a favorite to remember them when I am ready to dress shop. But, Greg and I need to pick our location and then plan from there. We’re probably going to do start our venue hunt this spring; that’s when I’m going to really start getting excited about this wedding (not to say that I’m not excited now).

I’ve got a headache so I’m heading out.


Mind Musings

I have so many thoughts going through my mind!

  • I’m thinking about my upcoming divorce hearing and saying good bye to Adam (mentally);
  • The odd dream I had last night about Greg’s ex;
  • Wedding stuff, mainly finding our site for the ceremony and reception;
  • The slow realization that Greg is going to be my future husband;
  • Van’s offer to pay for my tuition so I can finish my medical assisting/nursing certification/degree;
  • And much more…

Mainly, I am thinking about my wedding and divorce with little bits of the dream I had last night; which I’ll start off with first…

Last night, I dreamt that Greg and I were living with his ex temporarily. It was very awkward for me in the dream, even though we (Greg’s ex and I) were rarely home at the same time. Then, at some point in the dream, the exes sister spies on me and tells the ex what I’ve been doing (supposedly) and then the ex leaves all these notes around the house for me (and they weren’t very positive notes). The same day I discovered the notes around the house, she comes home while I am there and I confront her about the stuff she’s writing to me. And, somehow, after talking about everything we become friends. And, I recall thinking in the dream how odd it felt realizing that we’ve basically ‘made up’ and were actually talking as friends. Very strange dream, no?

My second thought is about saying good bye, permanently, to Adam.  Honestly, I am not that upset about saying good bye as I have no emotional attachment to him what-so-ever; but I thought I would be able to send an email every once in a blue moon to say ‘Hi’ and see what he’s up to (just as I’ve done since 2005 when he moved out). But, I confronted him (via email as that’s the only means of communication I have to him) about the impression I had that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me for non divorce related stuff. You see, I’ve always remained friends with all my exes, even if I started a new relationship or if they started a new relationship; it just wasn’t odd to me. But, Adam is different; he’s a very private person and even though I’m not asking him private questions, I got the feeling that he doesn’t want to be hearing from me after the divorce. Which, as I’ve mentioned, is fine. After all, we need to close certain chapters from our past and move on to start the new chapters. I don’t think I’ll ‘miss’ him in any sense. I guess, in a sense, I received closure from him when he, more or less, confirmed what I thought. So, that is that.

Now, onto the wedding stuff! Last night I bought my first wedding magazine!! I bought the winter edition of The Knot, the magazine version of the website for things in the DC, VA, MD area. And, today, I read that magazine from cover to cover! I highlighted things of interest and worth looking into and checked out a few vendors and potential wedding/ceremony websites.

Even though, as of today, I have 653 days until my wedding, I want to pick out my location; and it’s slightly difficult because I don’t know how many guests we’re going to invite vs. attend. Greg thinks we’ll easily have 150 attendees; I think he’s wrong. Plus, if we have a wedding with that many guests, it’s really going to be financially stressful for us (I, without mentioning anything to my family – as in asking, am not expecting help from our families for our wedding, especially since I’m a repeat bride (sorta)). I am expecting something smaller, like around 75 guests. The second topic of discussion is where to host our wedding and reception. Greg said he wants to do something exotic and feels that if we hold our wedding and reception at a park, that it’s too traditional. Greg and I view the word ‘traditional’ in terms of a wedding completely different; to me, a traditional wedding is a wedding that is held in a church and the reception in a banquet hall. So far, Greg and I have added Ripkin Stadiumas a possible ceremony/reception site. My Mom, on the other hand, would like us to have our wedding reception (as least) at her house. Granted, there are 20 acres to fit everyone, and there is a small beach where we could have the bon fire, but I feel it would be too much of a drive for everyone, and that there are no hotels near by for the guests (since EVERYONE would need a hotel room); if Mom lived closer, then I would seriously consider it (after all, my other wedding reception was held at home in Churchton). I believe the planning would be easier on me if I knew how much money I had to work with. But, I want to know how much everything is going to cost before I set my budget… it feels like I’m in a ‘catch 22’ regarding this part of the planning. Eh, as Greg says, we have plenty of time. Oh, and another item we dicussed was our “save the date” notices – we’re going to send them out this summer. We’re thinking magnets so everyone can put it on the fridge and, hopefully, not forget.

So, not too much going on.

Although, I really should be planning Amelia’s First Birthday Party, as I only have 2 weeks (eek!!). Guess Greg and I will work on that this weekend…