It is what it is

Life. The good, the bad. The challenges, and strengths needed… sometimes, it’s just too much.

I received a small inheritance from my grandma. It’s actually more than I was ‘day dreaming’ about; you know, ‘what if we receive XX, then we can do YY’. A part of me wants to use the funds (note: I did not say spend) for debt reduction purposes, stocking up on household items so, when the money does run out we won’t run out of paper towels, laundry soap, etc. But, there’s also this part that wants me to horde the money because I know there will be a point in time that our every day income won’t be enough to cover our needs.

I have decided to use the funds to pay for a trip to Disney World at the end of the year. Sofia has been asking, literally on a daily bases, that she wants to see Mickey and Minnie. And, I feel she’ll get a hoot out of the whole experience – and a fun way to bring in her 3rd birthday.

Some of the funds are going to be spent on a lawyer. Then, some of the funds are going towards clothing for everyone (more for the girls and Greg)… and, the rest, I guess, will be stashed away for whatever is needed.

I recently had an interview for a Sr. Business Analysis position. I think it went well. I really hate doing interviews; i suck as selling myself, and I find it uncomfortable talking about myself. I applied for this position not know what it pays, so I hope I’m not disappointed.

I enrolled for a course this summer, but I had to withdraw; there’s just too much going on and I can’t focus on the class work, much less find time to do the course work. I’m hoping that by the time fall semester starts, the chaos at work will have died down. I’ve been assigned to ‘Special Project’ since February and I’ve been enjoying the new work – I’ve done a lot of UAT (user acceptance testing), which has taught a lot of ‘behind the scenes’ stuff that goes into the Care, and company, Dept. I’ve also been able to network a little more and develop ‘go to’ lists for certain areas (and I’ve been added to theirs). I hope I get to travel for work in the near future and meet some of these co-workers in person.

Greg and I have been talking about moving out west — to Washington or Oregon state. It would be a two year goal, to save up and such, to make the move. I’m all for it, it’s Greg that is scared. It’s a big move, but I feel it would do us good. The girls will be young enough, yet old enough, to enjoy the new state, yet have memories of Maryland. Additionally, we can visit Alaska by cruise! I’m sure Greg would love to go back to Alaska (for a visit); heck, I’d love to move there, but Greg says ‘no’ on that one.

My mind is running at random; there’s more to go into details on, but I don’t feel I should.


What’s Happening?

How was your summer?

Ours was busy. And, to my dismay, we didn’t make it to the beach (even for a day trip).

I took 2 classes over the summer; Algebra and Human Biology. Greg had to help with the Algebra; math just isn’t my thing (well, math that requires x’s and y’s and plotting graph’s, etc).

Amelia attended our county’s summer camp program and loved it! Such a huge difference in willingness to participate this year than last year. We picked a somewhat different program that had field trips every week and we also picked a different school (one by my office) and I think that made the difference. We’ll probably do the same next summer.

We bought a new (to us) car! Greg and I would daydream about our next car purchase. What did we want in the car, such as the size (sedan vs. SUV. vs minivan), features and options, and manufacturer. So many factors to consider! And, after this experience I’ve learned that I hate car shopping. Hate it! But, in the end of our adventure (that’s a whole other post to share), we got the car that fits our family’s needs and that we enjoy driving as well.

Sofia. My goodness is this girl getting big! I wouldn’t be surprised is she’s already 25lbs and 30 inches tall. I keep telling Greg that we need to move her into a bigger carseat, but he doesn’t want to give up the carrier (even though its ridiculously heavy with her in it). That, and it would admit that she’s no longer a ‘baby’ and she’s in her way to be a toddler. Sofia does have 2 teethe in and just last week, or the week. For, she’s begun crawling!

Well, this is all the time I have for an update. I have several drafts written…one day ill get to them.

Update 3.24.11

I’ve been meaning to sit down and write an update but I am always getting distracted.

Greg and I attended our homeownership introduction course last night. Of course, Greg and I interpreted what was discussed completely different from each other; but I am excite that we have the ball rolling to (hopefully) become homeowners by the end of the year.

Amelia is doing so amazing! We’re going to enroll her in a Summer School/Camp this year to get her adjusted to a school setting … because we’re going to enroll her for school this Fall! My baby girl is old enough for school! At times I thought this milestone would never get here and then it’s like it arrived too fast.

School is going well. I’m actually enjoying the current course, database administrations. It’s a little more challenging then I anticipated, but I’m holding down a solid B for my grade.

Work. There are a lot of changes coming up. First, I formally submitted my resignation notice to the part time job; April will be my last month. Second, I submitted my resume for a new position at my current full time job; this position would change my working hours from 8-5 to 11-8, and, hopefully, bring in more money.

Cruise plans are still in effect. I’ve begun the hunt for airfare and so far AirTran is offering the best rates – let’s just hope they’re still the best when we’re ready to buy!

Overall things are going well. I can honestly say that I am happy and I don’t wish things were different.

Busy Bee

These past few weeks have gone by so fast!

My weekend with Michele was awesome! We hung out and explored parts of Maryland that I’ve never seen, or thought that I’d never visit. And, to Greg’s delight, I managed very well during the long car ride… all thanks to the iPhone 4 and its incredible battery life!

The adventure didn’t stop when we left! When we made it home, Amelia started having some kind of allergic reaction to something; she was breaking out is hives and or rashes all over her body. We took Amelia to urgent care and they had no idea what was going on (wow, what help y’all are) and prescribed a steroid to stop the inflammation. The medication worked, somewhat. Fortunately, we have an appointment with a pediatric dermatologist at Johns Hopkins Childrens Center this week; maybe we’ll learn what is going on with Amelia’s skin.

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This week I have to take my final exam! I can’t believe I’ve finished my 6th class. If I earn an A for this course (which I currently have), then that gives me 5 A’s and 1 C and a GPA of 3.66. Not bad, if I so say myself.

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We’re only 34 days from our first family vacation! I received some mail from Disney’s Magic Express, which were stickers for our luggage in order to have them delivered to our room when we arrive. Unfortunately, there was an error on our reservation which meant a new booklet needs to be sent. Boo. But, Amelia did have fun with the stickers!

And then there were…

6 Days until we fly.

This time next week we will be somewhere in the Gulf of Mexico, making our way to the Caribbean Sea heading towards the Grand Cayman Island. I have no idea how giddy with excitement Greg and I (but, probably more Greg than me) will be by this point next week. Gah! I can’t believe I’ll be on a cruise ship NEXT SUNDAY!

And, it still hasn’t sunk in – my level of excitement is no where near where I feel it should be! Actually, I believe I am starting to feel a little bummed that the trip is here; I’ve been looking forward to this cruise since last February, and I won’t have anything to look forward to (vacation wise) once the cruise is said and done. Well, we are thinking of a few things but we can’t really focus on those things until March. But, still.

In other news, Greg and I will probably be attending 3-4 weddings for 2009; this past new years two co-workers (one at his office, and one at mine) got engaged  and are planning for a wedding in the fall.

Michele moved up her wedding to March 28 (from October 10); Greg is a little freaked because he’s their photographer and he doesn’t feel he will be ready (at least equipment wise) by then. I assured him that he will do fine.

This past Saturday was my wedding shower, and belive it or not Greg and I forgot our cameras! So, my cousin took at the pictures and I’m waiting for her to email them, or post them on her MySpace page – then I will share with the world.

Today we spent a few hours with Greg’s Mom. We also celebrated Amelia’s 2nd birthday with her and Greg’s brother, Ken.  It’s nice to feel comfortable around the in-laws; I didn’t feel so comfortable around my ex’s due to my ex’s father – i just hated the guy and didn’t want to within earshot of him… but, Greg’s family is nothing like my ex’s and it’s so nice and refreshing. Even Greg’s brother, Ken, has warmed up to me – giving hugs and chatting with me and Amelia! Greg’s other brother, Pat, warmed up to me at the very beginning –  we even text each other on the occasion … and it’s fun to make fun of Greg (and some of his stupid decisions from his past – like leaving his favorite job to move to NY state for a girl) – in the loving manor that we do.

So, this is the final week of ‘normal’ life before I leave for ‘vacation’ life.  Greg and I have sorta started to get our home ready – we took down the Christmas tree and other decorations! I expressed my desire to have the place clean before we leave so that when we return we won’t have anything to do other than laundry and grocery shopping (as well as copious amounts of sleep – as I am sure we’ll need it).

During the long drive home last night (from my Cousins house), I asked Greg if he was really, truly, ready to be a married man.  Of course he said yes, and I asked him how does he know. And, he said the most beautiful things to me that I actually started to tear up! Basically, he broke down his past 2 ‘serious’ relationships and why he ignored the red flags and he told me that, if he could create the ‘perfect, dream girl’ he can’t think of anything else that I already posses as a person (physical looks don’t count when you’re thinking of the ‘perfect person’). To Greg, I am his dream girl. Awesome! So, we talked a little more about being married (I was so tired and I need him to talk to me to keep my eyes open) and he says that he doesn’t feel anything will change, to him, once we’re married because, to him, we’re already married. I begged to differ and explained why (which lead to the next topic of how does he know he’s ready to be married) – Greg and/or I could walk away and leave the relationship and there wouldn’t be any ‘mess’ to clean up (read: divorce) – there’s no real commitment (a ultimate, higher level, commitment) to each other like there is to being married; to me, when we’re married it means that Greg (and I) are going to be together in every sense of the word.  To me, at least, there will be a different feeling once Greg becomes my husband and I become his wife – Greg is promising to spend the rest of his life with me (and I him). Greg has chosen me as the one that makes him the happiest and that he wants me continue to make him happy for the rest of his life. That means a lot to me. Of course, it helps to know that during our whole friendship/court-ship, as Greg and I were denying our feelings for each other; telling each other that we were not interested in a relationship, much less marriage… that we’re actually going to marry each other! I’ve said it before, and I’m going to say it again – Greg has fulfilled every dream I’ve ever had since meeting him. Something I’ve never, ever, experienced – during my nearly 30 years of life – before. Guess that Magic 8 ball really is magic! LOL

Oh look, it’s 11:30pm and I have to work this week (4 out of 5 days). Guess I should get to bed, huh?

Good Friday

Today was a very good day!

I am 100% caught up with the correspondence. That is a relief!

Greg and I received something amazing that has alleviated all financial stress for the upcoming cruise, holidays, birthdays, and wedding. It’s a new credit card with a $5k limit. Yes, putting everything on the credit card isn’t the greatest idea; but it has a very low APR and we plan on transferring balances from our higher APR cards (and closing them out) onto the low APR in hopes of saving on payments and paying off debt sooner. Our plan of action is using the new credit card for the cruise (mainly) – we’re happy that we’re going to be able to really enjoy ourselves without worrying about going over our budget (which was going to be about $300 – including everything; excursions, tips, specialty restaurants, etc). After the cruise, we’re going to use our tax refund to pay off (or down) the credit card (which would also have the transferred balances from the higher APR cards). Also, Greg and I are planning out our paychecks and what we’re going to pay leading up to the cruise. If our calculations are correct, by the time we leave (which will also be a payday), we will have one whole check (well, 2 if you’re counting our individual employees) where we won’t have anything to pay (as everything for that month will already be paid for)! So, the money from the “free” paycheck is going to be our on-board credit (we’re going to put cash, about $300, on the account), anything we use over the initial deposit will go onto the new credit card. On paper, it looks like a good idea. We’ve given this a lot of though, let’s just hope it all works out.

Amelia has a cold. She’s hardly eating anything and what she does eat is cold; she will not eat anything warm (like oatmeal). Weird, but at least she does eat.

I can’t wait to go shopping. I am so looking forward to shopping, which is weird. But, what I am looking forward to is shopping for Greg’s new wardrobe! I love shopping for men’s clothes; I don’t know why because I hate shopping for myself.

Greg has started to hint about my Christmas  and Birthday gifts! As if the cruise isn’t enough to be excited about, he’s adding this! I don’t know how he could top last Christmas, after all he bought me my lovely lap top, in my favorite color, AND asked me to marry him!

I think I’ve been random enough on my good Friday.

Big Night

Tonight is a big night; we learn who the next US President is going to be.

Did I vote? Nope. Not even registered to vote, and I don’t plan on changing that.

*I know some of you are probably shaking your heads right now*

But, I am curious to see how everything turns out.

If you’re curious, if I were to vote I would have voted for Obama. Not for his plans to change the current state of the US, but because he did not ‘attack’ McCain as McCain attacked Obama. In my opinion, Obama ‘played nice’.

On a side note, I realized over the weekend, while in Target, that Greg and I are getting married on Inauguration Day. We were walking past the card isle and I saw a card, in big bold numbers, “1-20-09” and it caught my attention, so I picked up the card only to learn that it was about the upcoming inauguration.  And, that’s how I learned I was getting married on Inauguration Day.

Work is going well; it’s been a little on the slow side so I am able to catch-up on a lot of older items, which is a relief.

I’ve been checking NCL’s website religiously to see if the fare has gone down on our cruise. No luck, yet.

I’m still debating if I want to wear something wedding related, like a veil or a shirt that says “bride” on it, on our way down to FL and then onto the cruise ship. Greg feels I’m being slightly child/self ish about this want, which is partially true, because I do want attention and to let everyone know what’s going on – and… maybe get some perks, like a free upgrade to first class from the airline and maybe some free drinks from the restaurant… who knows

Well, my lunch hour is over. Time to go back to work.